When focusing on yourself doesn’t mean letting your hair go

Self care isn’t just about goals actually, it’s about how you feel.

They say you’re focusing on yourself but if your hair still looks lifeless and dull, are you really taking care of you? You touch it and it feels dry. You try to brush it and the comb gets stuck halfway through. Sound familiar?

Remember the independent woman era? The one where we handle everything ourselves, always on the move, hustling to reach our dreams? It’s empowering for sure but sometimes we push ourselves so much that we forget to slow down and nurture the woman living inside us.

If that sounds like you lately, pause for a moment. This is your gentle reminder: you can be ambitious and gentle with yourself.

When work becomes everything and self care becomes later

I used to think I was fine living on caffeine and late nights. Work was exciting, almost like a game. Every project felt like an adventure until one day I looked in the mirror and realized how dull my reflection had become. My skin lost its glow. My hair? Rough, tangled, lifeless.

That’s when it hit me: I was so busy building my career that I forgot to care for the person behind it. Hair care always felt like a luxury, something you do when everything else is done. But it’s actually part of what keeps us grounded.

You’ve probably seen that productivity chart that divides tasks into “urgent” and “important.” We spend our lives chasing what’s urgent: work, money, responsibilities, and ignore what’s quietly important: health, sleep, skincare, and yes, hair care.

Those “not urgent” things are what keep us balanced inside and out.

The real reasons your hair gets tangled easily

1. You tie it too often

If you wear a hijab or keep your hair tied all day, that constant pulling causes friction that makes your strands rough and knotted. By evening, your hair feels like it’s been through a battle.

2. Heat exposure

Whether it’s the sun or your styling tools, heat strips away moisture and leaves hair dry and brittle which means hello tangles.

3. Lack of nourishment

Using only shampoo is like washing your face and skipping moisturizer. Clean, yes but not healthy. Hair needs hydration, especially when it’s constantly tied or exposed to pollution.

Maybe you’ve told yourself: “No one sees my hair anyway.”, “It’s fine, I wear a hijab.”, “I’ll care for it later.”

But the truth is, caring for your hair isn’t about being seen, it’s about how you feel. When your hair feels good, you feel good. Your energy changes. You move differently. You feel soft, radiant, whole.

Reconnecting with your hair and yourself

Healthy hair starts from both inside and outside. It’s not about spending hours in front of the mirror, it’s about small, consistent rituals that remind your body it’s loved.

From the inside: nourish, don’t neglect

1. Stay hydrated. Water keeps your scalp healthy and helps reduce dryness.
2. Eat good fats. Olive oil, avocado, and nuts are full of omega that boost shine from within.
3. Get enough rest. Stress triggers hair fall and makes strands fragile.

It’s simple science, but it’s also self-love.

From the outside: treat, repair, and protect 

1. Use a gentle shampoo that doesn’t strip natural oils.
2. Don’t skip conditioner, it’s your first shield against breakage.
3. Apply hair oil or serum to protect from daily friction.
4. Treat with a nourishing mask once or twice a week.

And here’s where one product truly makes a difference: L’Oréal Absolut Repair Golden Hair Mask. It’s designed for damaged, dry, or tangled hair, infused with gold quinoa and protein, ingredients that help repair damage while keeping your hair soft, smooth, and easy to brush.

Unlike heavy masks that leave residue, this one melts right in, making your hair feel like silk after every wash. After just two uses, my brush stopped getting stuck halfway. The shine came back, the frizz calmed down, and brushing became effortless again. And yes it smells divine.

Best part? You don’t need to go to a salon for this kind of repair. Just a few minutes at home, once or twice a week, and your hair feels revived again.

Little Reminder for the Busy You

Your hair deserves care not because others will see it but because it’s part of you. Even if you’re hustling, even if you wear a hijab, even if no one else notices you will.

Taking care of your hair is not vanity. It’s presence. It’s self-respect. It’s a quiet moment where you choose softness in a world that keeps asking you to be tough. So tonight, before bed, maybe skip the scroll and do that quick hair mask instead. Because sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is to slow down and touch your own hair gently.

Try This for Yourself

You can get the L’Oréal Absolut Repair Golden Hair Mask on the amazon store. Perfect for anyone with dry, damaged, or tangled hair who needs deep repair but still wants a light, silky finish.

So, 

Self-care is not about perfection, it’s about intention. And your hair, just like you, deserves a little love, a little softness, and a lot of patience. Because when your hair feels alive again, somehow, so do you.